How to Let Go of Stuck Thoughts

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Stuck thoughts are those pesky little thoughts you can’t seem to stop thinking about. They’re usually negative and often very powerful. And for some wild reason, we choose to believe them. These thoughts come in the form of phrases like, “you can’t do that” or “no one likes you” and “no one will like that.” Even we inherently know that those thoughts have no meaning, we still let them control us. Eventually, it morphs into an obsession and we can become stuck on one singular thought for hours, days, weeks, and even months. In order to live a happy, healthy life we need to learn how to let go of stuck thoughts.

 

Know it will Pass

Mental health can feel like a roller coaster. One week you’re flying high and staying positive and a few weeks later you feel turned upside down. But each time, the bad moments pass and the good moments come right back along like they never left. The moment a negative thought pops into your head remember that it will pass. Even your most intrusive thoughts will have to leave at some point. Acknowledge the thought and then let it go.

 

Focus on the Now

This is a big theme in modern mental health because anxiety exists in the non-existent future. The future we’ve made up in our heads. It’s not always easy to come back into the now. That’s why you can use grounding techniques like counting down from 10 or acknowledging items and their colors in a room. Staying present will help to keep those annoying, intrusive thoughts at bay because those thoughts are usually focused on the future and you control your future.

 

Get Moving

Sometimes the reason why those intrusive thoughts make us feel stuck is because we are physically stuck. When an intrusive thought pops up ask yourself, “when was the last time I moved?”  If it’s been more than an hour, get up! Jump around, wiggle your arms, take a walk, just get that energy moving. You can paint, go golfing, play tennis, whatever you want to do just move. Moving helps occupy your brain so you’re not focused on stuck thoughts.

 

Everyone experiences intrusive thoughts and they’re perfectly normal–to a degree. It’s when you let them control your day and your emotions are when they become out of control and abnormal. If you’re struggling with letting go of certain thoughts or getting unstuck, call us today to schedule an appointment and learn how you can start living your best life.

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It’s Okay To Not Be Okay

 

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During a difficult period, everyone wants to know how to feel better. What’s the fastest way to feel better? So, we’re here to tell you what the big secret is on how to feel better. Permission and Acceptance. The biggest secret to feeling better is giving yourself permission. Permission to feel sad, mad, frustrated, hopeless, defeated, overwhelmed. It’s okay to not be okay. The sooner you grant yourself permission to be to feel everything you’re feeling, the sooner you can start moving forward. But sometimes permission isn’t so easily granted and you need a little bit of extra support. So what do you do?

Seek Help

Friends and family are there for a reason and they can’t help you if they don’t know that you need help. As hard as it may be to seek out help, no matter how big or small the request may be, it’s worth it and necessary. Seeking help is a powerful action that can help you feel powerful during times when you feel overall powerless. Speak up for what you need so people can provide the help and support you need right now. Additionally, you may want to seek out the help of a counselor or therapist to help you further sort out what you’re feeling.

Take a Step Back

It’s okay to cut back on activities, friends and family time when you’re going through something difficult. This is a period for reflection and if that means keeping to yourself for a while, then take that time. Never feel guilty for taking time to care for yourself emotionally, mentally, and physically.

Accept What You’re Feeling

Whether you think you should or shouldn’t be feeling ‘not okay’ doesn’t take away from the fact that you don’t feel okay. And that’s okay. As hard as you might try, your feelings can’t be controlled 24/7 365. When you get stuck on the shame and guilt around how you’re feeling, it prevents you from moving forward.

 

You can’t expect to feel okay all the time. No matter how amazing and cushy your life may be, there are going to be periods where you feel unhappy, sad, undeserving, and anxious. This is okay. But you don’t have to feel this way forever. Through permission and acceptance, you can start moving forward and feeling better. If you’re still struggling, it’s okay to seek help. Call us today to schedule an appointment with one of our counselors so you can start feeling like you again.

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